FAQ on Why am I so attached to my dog
We get attached to dogs because we take care of them and we receive love and companionship from their side. It is perfectly normal to get attached to your dog.
Why am I so attached to my dog?
Loving our pets to the point of considering them part of our family, taking care of them and seeking their well-being is undoubtedly a good and normal thing. But some people can cross this threshold, turning these beings into substitutes for personal relationships and humanizing them to the extreme. Is it difficult for you to detach yourself from your pet?
People are not only attached to their dogs, but are also attached to their cats.
Let’s agree that paying close attention to the animals that share your home is not a bad thing; Quite the contrary and very welcoming is that you take care of them properly.
The problem arises when your dog, your cat or the little animal you have chosen to have becomes the centre of your life: the only one who loves you understands you and accepts you as you are.
The fact that you cannot detach yourself from your pet can be interpreted, then, as a compensatory mechanism – either psychological or emotional- that most of the time is generated unconsciously and that is reinforced as time passes, reaching to hinder relationships with friends and family.
If you cannot detach yourself from your pet, there is something that is not working well in the way you are relating to it and that you must solve both for your good and for that non-human being that keeps you company.
Not just children, but even some adults get too attached to their stuffed animals. They don’t really get as to why they feel this way.
Can you become too attached to your dog?
Most often, over-attachment is an issue within the relationship of the dog and the person. It is a problem because it’s very stressful, physically and mentally on a dog. It’s also problematic for people, as the symptoms of the problem are bothersome.
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It’s Saturday night and your friends call you to go out. Perhaps they want to check out a local live band, or drop by a party someone is having. But, frankly, you’d rather just stay home and play with your cat.
Your friends say you love that cat too much. Could they be right? In other words, is it possible that you love your pet too much?
The answer: It is possible to form unhealthy attachments to animals, but the attachment must become pretty extreme. In the brief example cited above, the answer is probably no. A lot of people would rather forego a night in a smoky, noisy bar for a quiet evening home with kitty, who would certainly enjoy the company.
But if the relationship with your pet excludes meaningful relationships with human beings, then there may be a problem. “People can have unhealthy relationships when they lose objectivity,” explains counselor Marty Tousley, RN, MS, CS. “But it depends on the individual situation.”
Tousley notes that human-animal bonds are unhealthy when we expect our pets to take the place of people. While our bonds with pets are beautiful and fulfilling, they should not supplant our desire to be with people.
In an article she authored, Tousley uses the example of a woman who has gone through unsuccessful relationships with men, perhaps a failed marriage or two. “A woman may find it safer, easier and more emotionally fulfilling to focus her relationship with a pet, who is never demanding or critical, and would never leave her feeling rejected or abandoned. In effect, she would be using her pet to mask her own fears of intimacy and commitment with men,” writes Tousley.
Smothering your pet with healthy love really isn’t a problem â just ask your pet. But it could be unhealthy in other ways or just downright confusing at times. Your pet may conclude that he or she is the alpha â the leader â by your behavior. This can lead to future behavior problems with the two of you jockeying for the leadership role.
Or they may become so attached to you that they eventually suffer separation anxiety. This is a behavioral disorder that often originates with the pet, but can be made worse by your actions. When you’re home, your dog follows you around and insists on staying as close to you as possible.
Although this may seem cute, worse things may follow. When you leave, your dog may urinate on the carpet, howl or destroy property â not out of spite but out of frustration. An animal behaviorist may be need to be consulted in these cases.